Welcome to the Margaret Dilloway, American Housewife site!

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Now Available in Paperback: The Care and Handling of Roses with Thorns

WINNER OF BEST WOMEN’S FICTION AWARD,  the American Library Association’s Literary Tastes Reading List

 “Book-club alert! Dilloway’s exquisite little novel, about a biology teacher who breeds roses so she won’t have to think about her kidney disease, brims with all the heart-tugging appeal of The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society.”– Entertainment Weekly 

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“This radiant debut pays moving tribute to the power of forgiveness.”– People Magazine, 4 Stars

A 2011 John Gardner Fiction Book Award Finalist

Read the first two chapters of How to Be an American Housewife: Housewife Excerpt

Why is your blog called,”American Housewife?”

It comes from the title of my first novel How to Be an American Housewife. It’s sort of an ironic title, since neither character can be a real, idealized, “American housewife.” The more I thought about it, the more I realized– a perfect American Housewife is an unattainable myth.

The word “housewife” holds negative connotations. Like you’re kept, and your husband’s so well off you can sit around and eat chocolates and work out all day. Like you’re not a real person. If somebody asks, “What do you do?” at a party, and you say,”I’m a housewife (or stay at home mom),” they’re likely to turn away. But that’s not what the word means to me, nor is it what it meant to my mother.

I wanted to reclaim the word “housewife” for myself. I don’t want it to solely belong to the socialites on Bravo TV anymore. I’m a writer, I have opinions, I am married, I have kids, I cook, I make things, I read. I care about everything too much. I read the comics before I read the news. I have a green thumb on one hand and a black thumb on the other. I am grateful for everything I have. I am the combination of a coolly vengeful samurai and a quick-tempered Irish hooligan.

So, stay a while. Read some of my stories on my blog. Check out my novels, where you’ll find out more about me than anywhere else in the world.


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My work’s also included in these books:

An essay about our super wonky first year of marriage, back when my husband was in the Ranger Battalion.

A story that takes place in Hawaii. I got the idea for it when I saw the doppelganger for my husband 20 years ago sitting outside a fancy shop, reading a philosophy book and begging for spare change. I thought I’d time traveled.